Proactive vs. Reactive Parenting

Proactive vs. Reactive Leadership as a Parent     My husband Isaac talks on leadership frequently in business.  He has talked about the concept of proactive vs. reactive leadership.  Making changes and doing things today to train, not because they are needed today, but because they are important and will be needed some day.  In parenting this concept proves to be equally effective in training our children to be prepared for their futures as well [...]

By |April 29th, 2012|Blog, Child Training, Parenting|2 Comments

Competitiveness, Selsfishness, and Pride ~ Core Christian Parenting Fundamentals

Why is Competitiveness one of the topics I chose to include in this Core Christian Parenting Fundamentals Series? I believe the God's heart grieves when we are competing with one another rather than working together as a team, within the family, within marriage, and within the Body of Christ.  My heart grieves for broken families; but I also grieve for families that that are still "together" by our worlds standards but are ineffective or less [...]

Developing Sibling Relationships that Last- Purposeful Parenting #9

Do you find your children competing with one another?  I'm not talking about brothers wrestling, I am talking about heart attitudes.  What are your children's heart attitudes towards learning from one another?  In our home this has been something I have kept my eye out for. I firmly believe that it is our job to be teaching our children that they are developing life long relationships with their siblings.  When we have conflict in our [...]

Purposeful Parenting #8- Competitiveness

The Spirit of Competition.  Many are scared of it, many have been hurt by it; and yet on the other hand many don't see any problem with it, in fact they believe teaching competition is a good thing. How do we handle this as parents?  Are we watching for the spirit of competitiveness among sibling relationships? Is competitiveness between siblings modeled in the bible? In Luke 15, we come to the story of the prodigal [...]

Children~ Our Spiritual Thermometers!

Welcome to the 7th Part of our Core Christian Parenting Fundamentals Series!  I would encourage you to read the first 6 if you haven't had a chance yet! Today we are talking more about expectations and letting our children be our spiritual thermometers as parents.  Do the expectations our children feel and sense match up with what our heart desire really is for our kids? If we are preaching the scriptures and righteous living in [...]

Purposeful Parenting #6~ Looking in the Mirror

We just talked about Expectations in our "Core Christian Parenting Fundamentals Series" last post here. I believe whatever expectations we hold our children to, we should also hold ourselves to. Expectations are things such language usage, dressing modestly, talking back, being sassy, having a rotten attitude, oh the list could go on forever. My point is we should be: Treating them as we would want to be treated If we wouldn’t want to be corrected [...]

Purposeful Parenting #5~ Revealing Expectations

Are expectations talked about in your home? What are the expectations your children sense? Have you asked them? Without prompting them?  Do they feel pressure?  Do they feel they have to perform or you will be mad at them? We have to realize these questions will reveal a few things! 1) What we really focus on. 2) What our children feel/sense is most important to us 3) What they will most likely do when they [...]

Purposeful Parenting #4~ Expectations~ To Have or Not to Have

Expectations To Have or Not to Have Have you heard, “Be careful not to have too high of expectations for your children because you don’t want to put too much pressure on them or they will rebel”??? Or testimonies from MKs and PKs (missionary/pastor), who talk about how much pressure was in their homes to “perform.”  When I was in University a few of my friends were MKs and PKs.  They all had similar stories [...]

Purposeful Parenting #3~ Facing Realities

Purposeful Parenting #3~ Facing Realities As I mentioned in a previous post, many people comment on how well~behaved our children are... while they are such a blessing to Isaac and I, I have to say something about this.  I hope and pray you don’t take this as I am gloating.  That is NOT my intention at all.  I am sure many of you have experienced people in your own lives that have complemented you on [...]

Purposeful Parenting #2: Calling Sin What it is

Purposeful Parenting #2~ Calling Sin What it Is Dealing with sin in our lives is essential.  We need to deal with our sin constantly and humbly as we are dealing with our children's sins along side them. First off I have to share an observation I have noticed... we as Christian parents need to change our verbiage.  When punishing, disciplining or correcting our children we need to call it what it is.  It is SIN!  [...]